As an addict in recovery, I can tell you that addiction is both a disease AND a decision. As addicts, we DO have an affliction, but we also have the choice of whether or not to engage in our addictive behaviors, whatever they might be. However, the level of our ability to effectively choose NOT to engage in our addictive behaviors, is defined by a number number of factors, including (a) genes, (b) the way we are raised as children, (c) our history of trauma, (d) commitment to a program of recovery and (e) a number of socioeconomic factors that make "good decision-making" more difficult.
Of course, none of this make the death of a loved one any easier to process, regardless of whether or not they were an addict. I'm just do glad that you do not blame your mother, because I can guarantee you whatever she did or did not do, NO human being comes out of the womb hoping to become an addict. My prayers to you and all of your family, and may God continue to bless you and your wife.
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As an addict in recovery, I can tell you that addiction is both a disease AND a decision. As addicts, we DO have an affliction, but we also have the choice of whether or not to engage in our addictive behaviors, whatever they might be. However, the level of our ability to effectively choose NOT to engage in our addictive behaviors, is defined by a number number of factors, including (a) genes, (b) the way we are raised as children, (c) our history of trauma, (d) commitment to a program of recovery and (e) a number of socioeconomic factors that make "good decision-making" more difficult.
Of course, none of this make the death of a loved one any easier to process, regardless of whether or not they were an addict. I'm just do glad that you do not blame your mother, because I can guarantee you whatever she did or did not do, NO human being comes out of the womb hoping to become an addict. My prayers to you and all of your family, and may God continue to bless you and your wife.